Wrong "Love" Destroys

There is a real life story told to me by a fellow believer.
Her friend who is a very respectable and good teacher in a primary school is at her wits end as to what to do with her one and only 16 years old son.

She and her husband went through much much trouble to have this son. They "love" him so much that they gave him whatever he wanted. During times when she wanted to discipline him, her husband would remind her of how much trouble they went through having him and that she should not "hurt" him. So they kept giving in to him and eventually he always get what he wanted even though it was bad for him.

Now at 16, he has stopped going to school. He refuses to come out of his room to see anybody. He only plays with his computer and eats junk food in his room. His parents so called "love", wrong kind of love is destroying his life.

Children are children and they are not wise. That's why they need wise mature parents to guide them, teach them and discipline them. If children get everything they want their lives will be destroyed. Imagine if children get all the sweets they want, all the toys they want, all the TV or Computer time they want, all the "freedom" they want, all the money they want etc., they will surely be destroyed.

It frightens me to see parents and grandparents giving in to their little children when they whine, cry, throw tantrums etc. Children knows how to get what they want. They know how to manipulate and control adults to get what they want. They very much so have a selfish, self-centred heart.

If parents do not discipline their children but give in to them again and again, they are nurturing their selfishness, their greed, their pride and a self-centred life. Imagine being responsible for a child's selfish, rude and rebellious life because you "loved" him into such a life.

So discipline is absolutely vital for a child's healthy development into a caring, considerate, wise, righteous and respectful person.

Hear some of the wisdom of the Bible in Proverds.
Read it carefully and allow God's wisdom to fill your life!

Prov 13: 24 He who spares his rod hates his son,
But he who loves him disciplines him promptly.

Prov 22:15 Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child;
The rod of correction will drive it far from him.

Prov 23:13 Do not withhold correction from a child,
For if you beat him with a rod, he will not die.
14 You shall beat him with a rod,
And deliver his soul from hell.

Prov 29:15 The rod and rebuke give wisdom,
But a child left to himself brings shame to his mother.
17 Correct your son, and he will give you rest;
Yes, he will give delight to your soul.